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The complaint, filed on behalf of 10 current and former waitresses, alleges that a manager at the downtown Chicago location has engaged in inappropriate and sexually harassing behavior repeatedly since the restaurant opened in 2009. Specifically the complaint alleges: a manager made sexually explicit comments (more…)
What makes an ideal employee. It seems there would be a clear straightforward answer: A good employee is someone who works hard and supports the success of the workplace; Someone who always engages in appropriate workplace behavior. Managers want dedicated employees that put the employer first – right? Employees are supposed to “go the extra mile” and maintain a positive attitude at work. The ideal employee always enthusiastically gives a little extra. (more…)
The leader of the Catholic Archdiocese of Chicago, Cardinal George, has suspended a popular Chicago priest Reverend Michael Pfleger. The suspension comes after a workplace conflict surrounding the potential reassignment of the reverend, which was publicly discussed by Rev. Pfleger on a national radio program. In response to the Pfleger’s comments on the Tavis Smiley show, the cardinal felt that the process was “short-circuited” and opted to suspend the pastor. (more…)
An interesting lawsuit in Chicago serves as an example of the negative side of litigation: cost, time, emotional toll, and lack of control. It seems more likely that all sides would win through mediation.
According to the Chicago Tribune, Chicago condominium owner, Mary Jo Stevens, who has a long history of debilitating panic attacks, has found great relief through the use and constant companionship of a 10-pound therapeutic dog named Boo. She reports that in the 14 months she has owned Boo her panic attacks have decreased from multiple times a week to about once a week. (more…)
Religion education and identity is one of the most important issues to address in a parenting plan; as issues pertaining to religion are one of the most personal decisions a parent can make for a child.
In Chicago, a divisive custody battle is underway.
In this case the parents were married in 2004 and broke up after four years; they have one three year old daughter, Ela. The father, Joseph Reyes, is Roman Catholic, while the mother, Rebecca Reyes, is Jewish.
As so often happens when a couple breaks up, they dispute what agreements were previously made and motivation behind the agreements. In this case, the Reyes are in complete disagreement as to the decisions made regarding the religious upbringing of their daughter. Rebecca is raising their daughter Jewish, while Joseph is focusing on introducing Catholicism during his parenting time.
The father has gone as far as to have the daughter baptized in the Catholic church without the mother’s consent and violating a subsequent injunction against exposing his daughter to “any other religion other than the Jewish religion”. The mother is asking that the father be incarcerated for this violation of the injunction.
And at the middle of all of this is a 3 year old girl named Ela, who most likely has no understanding of the differences in her parents’ beliefs or why they are mad at one another.
At this point the parents and news stories tend to focus on what “courts allow”:
As ABCNews.com reports:
Eugene Volokh, a professor at the UCLA School of Law, said a parent who has visitation rights “usually has the right to expose the child to his religious beliefs, teach the child his religion, to take the child to religious services, unless there seems to be likely psychological or physical harm stemming from that exposure.”
Family court law expert Lynne Gold-Bikin said [Joseph] Reyes should have followed the court order, and said, “If this couple made an agreement about what religion to raise their child, then it’s an appropriate order.”
Regardless of how the Reyes custody battle (and this truly is a battle), the parents and Ela are going to have to live with the consequences, not just in terms of religious education and identity, but also the effect the battle has on the Reyes’ ability to co-parent.
Like all couples with young children, the Reyes are faced with the need, for Ela’s sake, to have a somewhat close and workable relationship until she reaches adulthood, and remain cordial and cooperative thereafter. It seems likely that this issue and, more importantly the resultant litigation, is going to have a permanent and negative affect on their ability to co-parent. Although the whole family will suffer, Ela will be the one to suffer most.
Religion education and identity is an issue for many divorced or otherwise separated parents. Actively and clearly addressing the expectations and desires in terms of parenting is important for all parents, and especially so for those who parent from different homes.
Addressing religion directly in a mediated parenting plan or custody agreement can lessen the possibility of such a dispute. It allows parents to clearly address their expectations of one another as well as focusing on the interest and intent of the religious education and identity.
Focusing on each parent’s interests in parenting moves the discussion away from the emotion-based “You can’t make me! Oh, yes I can!” power and control dynamic that is so evident in litigated cases like this.
Divorce mediation, or any mediation involving a parenting plan, should proactively address these issues and stimulate thought and discussion regarding religion if the parents have not already thought about it. Ideally, the mediated result will be one both parents can support.
For those in Illinois, experienced mediators are available to resolve all kinds of disputes, including divorce, parenting & child custody issues, family conflicts, wills and probate, business or civil dispute, workplace conflict, and property disputes.
Therapist and attorney mediators conduct our mediation services in Illinois. We have offices throughout Chicago and suburbs, as well as Rockford, Peoria, and the Quad Cities area. Every CFR mediator is highly experienced in the field of conflict resolution, and is committed to assisting parties achieve peaceful, positive, resolution for most types of interpersonal disputes.
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- A practicing attorney mediator with over 30 years experience in conflict resolution and an arbitrator for 20 years. He is also a founding member of Mediators Without Borders and a board member of The International Academy Of Dispute Resolution. This mediator is available to assist in all types of disputes including family, divorce, personal injury, business, employment, elder care, and workplace conflicts.
In Illinois, we offer mediation for all types of conflicts including divorce and family issues, civil & business disputes, and workplace conflicts. Our mediators specialize in various issues, and your mediation coordinator will match our best provider to your case.
When you chose CFR as your mediation provider, you are choosing a mediation provider that understands how difficult and confusing finding a solution can be. We listen to you. We assist you in focusing on the shared interests involved – moving past the emotion that perpetuates the conflict are discord.
Officially participating in a mediation certificate program in 2007, Mr. Taradji immediately chose to join the distinguished mediators already paneled with CFR. Through mediation, Mr. Taradji is able to expand his reach to conflicts of all types, including divorce and other family disputes as well as civil, business, and personal injury cases.
He sees his role as mediator as one of assisting individuals, families, and businesses in creating solutions that work, both in the immediate and for the long-term. “I understand the difficulty unresolved conflict brings, and hope to facilitate a creative solution that meets the unique needs of every case. It is an honor to be the trusted mediator, and each case receives my utmost attention.”
In addition to being a CFR Certified Mediator and practicing litigator, Mr. Taradji has been sworn as an arbitrator for the Circuit Court of Cook County.
In Illinois, if you go to court over custody or visitation, you will probably be ordered to see a mediator as part of your legal journey. Even if you have never been married, the Illinois Supreme Court has ruled that mediation is the best way to begin sharing the responsibility for a child.
You can read the actual court ruling for clarification, but the purpose is to address any and all areas of conflict in parenting through mediation – this includes custody of the children, visitation rights, or the residency of the children (moving them out of the state). Mediation allows the parents to work out a plan that works best for them. Parents in dispute can opt to have private mediator, like CFR Mediation, or can choose to participate in a court-run mediation program.
Each judge will order mediation “unless the court finds that an impediment to mediation exists”. What this means is that there are certain circumstances where mediation is not considered a good idea. For instance, if issues like substance abuse, mental illness, child abuse, or domestic violence are a factor in your situation, the judge may not order you to participate in mediation.
It is important to remember that although mediation may be mandatory in most cases, resolving your differences in those sessions is not. Agreements through family mediation are always voluntary, but is also the only way to ensure that you develop a plan that you and your child can live with. As in all family matters, any agreement made in mediation is not actually binding until it is signed by the judge as a formal court order.