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When looking at divorce information available online, it is almost impossible to not to find articles detailing things that a spouse can do to prolong the conflict and inflict more pain on the other spouse in a divorce action. Most recently The Huffington Post published “5 Of the Dirtiest Divorce Tricks” which details 5 things that neither person should do…but perhaps things that – now that they have read the article – they can do to inflict more hurt on the other spouse. (more…)
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The Single Worst Divorce Mistake
Tuesday, January 10th, 2012
Divorce & Parenting Communication Tip
Monday, October 17th, 2011When we first start a relationship, we tend to emphasize similarities. When a relationship is ending we tend to focus on the differences. This may seem an obvious statement, but as a couple goes through the divorce process it is important to remember that you tend to see the other person through a filter of negativity that emphasizes the disparities.
Responding To Conflict-Laden Relationships
Tuesday, October 4th, 2011
Being involved in a relationship involving conflict is difficult. It doesn’t matter whether it is a personal or workplace relationship – it is never pleasant. In these relationships, even the most casual interactions can trigger a stress reaction.
For couples going through a divorce or parents who are raising their children in two homes have no choice but to continue to interact (more…)
Divorce Mediation – Why Mediate A Divorce?
Thursday, August 25th, 2011
CFR divorce mediation allows those divorcing to decide how their story will unfold.
Unlike the stories of a typical litigated divorce, those who choose to mediate do not leave a divorce mediation session lamenting that they “lost everything”, or having received an order to do something he or she disagrees with. Nor will the process drag on for months, much less years. (more…)
Chicago Mediation Services
Monday, June 27th, 2011
We are a Chicago Illinois based mediation firm focusing on the prevention and resolution of divorce, business, and workplace conflicts.
People chose our conflict resolution services because they want a mediator who can quickly and effectively assist them in creating a solution that works for them. Most cases, including divorces involving children, are completed resolved in a matter of hours.
We focus solely on creating “Win-Win” agreements – saving those in dispute the time, stress, and money that comes with litigation. (more…)
Mediation & Divorce Involving Children
Friday, June 10th, 2011
It may seem that the more complex a divorce, the less appropriate divorce mediation is. In reality, mediation often makes more sense in complex cases, especially when children are involved.
When a divorcing couple has kids, they are going to continue to have a relationship with one another even after the divorce is final. Divorce mediation allows the couple to determine how they want to co-parent; what works for them individually, as a couple, and most importantly – what works for the children. (more…)
Divorce Mediation: Determining Child Support
Thursday, June 2nd, 2011
Child support is one of the issues addressed in divorce mediation.
Child support is not the same as alimony, maintenance, or other spousal support. For the parents of minor children, child support is a mandated payment to provide for the ongoing support of the children. Although required in every state, each state creates its own guidelines for payment.
Unlike other issues addressed in the dissolution of a marriage or relationship, child support does not have as much flexibility in the design. (more…)
Deciding Child Custody: Divorce Litigation Example
Thursday, May 12th, 2011
On April 25, 2011 North Carolina Judge Nancy Gordon ruled that primary physical custody of Alaina Giordano’s two children (who currently reside in North Carolina) would go to their father, Kane Snyder, who lives in Chicago as of June 17.
Like so many litigated divorce cases, the Giordano v. Synder case is a contentious one that includes a history of restraining orders, mental health concerns, and allegations of both cheating and domestic violence. (more…)
Parental Divorce = Earlier Death For Children?
Sunday, April 17th, 2011
One of the findings in The Longevity Project is that for this group of individuals, parental divorce during childhood indicated in a higher risk of early death – averaging out to five (5) years earlier than those whose parents did not split-up. Since the study was published more a handful of professionals, writers, and allied persons have referenced this finding as a cautionary tale to those who are contemplating divorce. (more…)
Why Divorcing Couples Should Try Mediation First
Saturday, April 9th, 2011Most divorcing couples find that they are in a period of high conflict. Some have experienced constant arguments and fights for months or years; some are reacting to a sudden change of heart.
Regardless of the circumstances and presentation, conflict between divorcing partners exists and is often seemingly impossible to navigate. Most often impending divorce results in a traditional type of intervention: retaining attorneys and asking them to resolve the issues, however divorce mediation is a better option for the vast majority of couples and families. (more…)
