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New Mexico District Judge Ann Kass wrote: “Litigation seduces people into fantasizing that there are magic solutions to their problems.”
Too often, when speaking to couples going through a divorce, it is evident that one or both partners are seeking a magical solution to outstanding divorce issues.
A divorce is (more…)
CFR Mediation offers divorce, family, business, civil, and workplace mediation services throughout the US. Our mediators are local, expert, and experienced professionals who are committed to resolving conflicts efficiently and effectively.
CFR Mediation currently has mediators throughout the US. All mediator services are accessed by contacting CFR’s main office at 866-922-2370 or submitting a request (more…)
Most adults have heard of a prenuptial agreement. Regardless of a person’s personal interest in a signing a prenuptial agreement, most recognize that the idea of clarifying issues before a couple weds makes sense. We tend to see a marriage as a clear marker of separate versus joint – and in most circumstances this is a positive change in perception as it helps cement relationships and lessen the chance of divorce. (more…)
For many, divorce mediation seems an impossibility for couples that are not getting along. It is as if only those couples who are getting along or in apparent agreement about issues – despite their decision to divorce – can realistically consider mediating their split.
Many think that divorce involving complex emotions and reactions cannot be mediated. As if the hurt and anger means that the couple cannot determine what is best for them and their family. This is a myth. (more…)
Everyone, at some point, ends up in a conflict with someone else. And, despite what it may seem like at the time, no one likes being personally involved in a heated dispute with another person or entity: if the outcome did not matter the conflict could not really exist as it would no longer be “fed” by the disputants.
Conflicts come in all shapes and sizes – and some are extremely heated. Those in dispute may not be able to look at one another without feeling experiencing anger and hurt. Although it may not seem that there is always an option, choosing how to respond to the dispute can have a significant affect on the outcome. (more…)
Divorce is a difficult process. Regardless of the reason behind the break-up, the process of formalizing the divorce is often upsetting both emotionally and logistically. The logistical process of the relationship separation can trigger and aggravate the emotional issues involved. In cases where at least one person identifies a triggering event for the break-up of the relationship, the emotions involved can make a peaceful efficient resolution of the issues almost impossible without involvement of divorce professionals. (more…)
Pre-paid legal plans have become more and more popular. Many join plans offered as a payroll deduction at work, while others seek out such plans as a protection for their families; even the AARP has a legal plan for members. It can seem impossible never to need an attorney and these plans provide a basic level of legal service for a minimum cost.
The legal services generally covered in monthly plan fees include document review for such things as simple wills and contracts, as well as the paperwork completion in simple uncontested divorces. It can be frustrating and costly, (more…)
So often when a couple has made the decision to divorce – their best intentions and desires seem to get co-opted by well-meaning and concerned friends and family. In an effort to be supportive or protective advice, solicited and unsolicited, seems to come from every direction.
Advice can be be helpful: a divorce is something typically not planned for nor do most know how to go about it. In addition, the break-up of any relationship is a conflict and like any conflict or dispute, family and friends respond based on their own frames of reference – which includes their personal fears and biases. (more…)
Distance and circumstance can affect how separated and divorced parents spend time with their children – regardless of the nature of the relationship between parents. Sometimes parents are separated or divorced; sometimes away on business or military deployment; sometimes the multi-household arrangement is by design.
Often a focus of discussion is how parents, who live away from their children, maintain a positive parent-child relationship – especially when parents are divorced or otherwise separate due to relationship issues. (more…)
The Washington Courts home page has a link to legal forms which can be used in any county in the state, and each of those links leads you to needed forms, plus more links on how to use it and why. About half of those forms are used by those dealing with family law disputes – such as divorce.
Washington is a no-fault divorce state, which means that the state does not require specific grounds for divorce. Couples can simply affirm that the relationship is broken and cannot be fixed. Washington’s forms allow for the needs of domestic partners as well.
Washington’s online presence does a great job of helping pro se litigants understand what they are doing and how to get help with it. As is appropriate, individual’s are encouraged to have an attorney review what they have done before it is filed in court – to ensure that everyone is clear as to what is being filed in the court.
For divorcing couples who wish to file pro se, divorce mediation is a way to resolve all the terms of the divorce settlement and parenting plan (commonly referred to as a custody agreement). Keep in mind that mediation may be ordered by the court as a way for the parties to settle issues like custody and visitation with a parenting plan, if they have not already resolve those issues on their own or through mediation. Couples should check with their local court clerk to verify the exact rules in their county. As a result, couples divorcing with or without children should consider looking for a mediator that they trust and can work with.
At CFR Mediation Services, we believe that mediation allows couples that have made the difficult decision to divorce – to move forward without additional trauma. Our experienced mediators are trained specialists in guiding people toward agreements on the difficult issues that go along with divorcing and parenting. Our mediators stay neutral and assist couples in making decisions that work for them. Contact us for specific information on how we can help you make this challenging time as painless as possible.
