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New Mexico District Judge Ann Kass wrote: “Litigation seduces people into fantasizing that there are magic solutions to their problems.”
Too often, when speaking to couples going through a divorce, it is evident that one or both partners are seeking a magical solution to outstanding divorce issues.
A divorce is (more…)
No couple decides to marry and intertwine their futures – while planning to divorce years later. However, many couples find themselves facing just that. A life altering change that they did not plan for, but must navigate through together in order to move towards their individual futures.
No matter how long a couple has been married, the presence of children, or the financial assets involved, every divorcing couple (more…)
For couples breaking-up or divorcing, the idea of separation typically means no longer participating in things as a couple, which includes moving apart and no longer living together.
Perhaps the focus on physical separation is not surprising. As a relationship breaks down, the emotions involved are difficult to say the least. Tempers and resentments can flare up at the slightest provocation. (more…)
Marriages are more than just relationships: they are contracts that entitle the individuals in the couple to certain assets that may exist completely outside of the personal relationship. As a rule, spouses work together to support one another to promote growth in all areas including family size and financial matters.
Most often the changes that impact a couple fall within normal life developments: (more…)
Being involved in a relationship involving conflict is difficult. It doesn’t matter whether it is a personal or workplace relationship – it is never pleasant. In these relationships, even the most casual interactions can trigger a stress reaction.
For couples going through a divorce or parents who are raising their children in two homes have no choice but to continue to interact (more…)
Often visitors come to our site looking for information to help them “win” divorce mediation.
Certainly couples divorcing, whether they chose to mediate or not, are embarking on an unfamiliar path. It is a path that is most often chosen as the result of ongoing conflict and disappointment between the couple and seems full of unknown danger. Everyone has heard horror stories (more…)
CFR divorce mediation allows those divorcing to decide how their story will unfold.
Unlike the stories of a typical litigated divorce, those who choose to mediate do not leave a divorce mediation session lamenting that they “lost everything”, or having received an order to do something he or she disagrees with. Nor will the process drag on for months, much less years. (more…)
If you don’t experience even a little stress when you walk into a courtroom, you are either the lawyer who has loves to litigate, or you have just said, “All rise,” for the fourteenth time that day. For the rest of us stress is almost an automatic reaction when thinking about appearing in front of the judge, even when it is not the first time. The uncertainty, the formality of the court room, how can divorce court be anything but stressful? (more…)
Mediation is the most efficient method of conflict resolution, divorce mediation is no exception.
Divorce, as any complete legal severing of a committed relationship, is an emotional and often overwhelming process for couples. Additionally most couples who commit to a long term relationship with one another do not plan to divorce one another in the future, as a result finances, belongings, and lives can be intricately intertwined. The untangling process can trigger uncomfortable emotions and problematic communication in even the most agreeable couples. (more…)
We hear about the need to plan for a child’s future from day one. Every year the costs involved in parenting increase, in many ways so do the choices and possibilities. Divorce does not change this, however, it does mean that parents have to determine how they are going to navigate decisions now and in the future.
Among the many issues divorcing parents must consider are (more…)
